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Dealing with competitive children

Dealing with competitive children

I have two children who for the most part adore each other and play really well, but get painfully competitive over time spent with me. It’s great to feel loved but the competitiveness is exhausting to deal with and often spoils nice moments. Is there a way to work around this?

I would suggest planning activities to do with them on separate occasions. Speak to them about your plan and let them know that you will do something with each child on their own.

Speak to your children and find out what they are interested in and where they would like to go to have some mum and child time. I would even pop this into the calendar as a reminder so they know what to expect. When spending time all together - plan a fun and fair game or choose a movie that you can all watch together.
 

Keti Ivanoska

Keti Ivanoska

Acting Director and Educational Leader, Goodstart Early Learning

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