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My 19 month old is waking through the night and demanding Mum to go back to sleep. I always patted her in the cot and shhhh and it worked. It is not working. She is expecting it. If I don't she will scream standing up in her cot. Tresillian gave some advice about not touching her and having dad do it, just talking positivity and walking in and out every couple of minutes. Obviously I can not do that. Was a great baby often self settled until she started teething. She has a dummy. We are expecting a second child any day.
Hi, I’ve got a 12-week-old boy and a 3 1/2-year-old girl. My girl is very strong willed - and I’m struggling with knowing how to deal with her. She’s had a lot of change recently with a new house and new baby who is very needy - and has recently been pushing boundaries so so far. Not only answering back to me but friends of mine too. When I say to stop doing something she does it again and again. Looking for tips and advice with handling kids like this please
Sibling fighting! I have two young boys less than two years apart who seem to do nothing but fight! The older one mimics the younger one when he's upset and is rough, the younger one (2.5yrs) purposefully does stuff to annoy his older brother etc. We have also caught the older one ganging up on his younger brother with cousins which was so disappointing! How do we encourage brotherly love and encourage them to care about and stick up for the other?
I have a 4.5yo with hearing loss. His behaviour this past week has become noticeably irrational, escalating quickly to anger/aggression. We’ve had three consecutive days with aggressive outbursts. He’s a very smart, strong-willed boy but has trouble self-regulating. He is very aware of his feelings and has no problem naming them. He also knows what strategies he should be using to calm down but doesn’t utilise them ‘in the moment. We already see speechie and OT. Would a child psych help?
Help! My 3.5 year old has morphed into the devil child! He's always been strong willed but since having a second baby a month ago his behaviour is so bad I am afraid to take him out! He is yelling and arguing and crying and punching - I can't take him to the park for fear he will hit another child! He's very smart and very outgoing and I am just out of ideas! What can I do?
I have a 4 year old boy who has been in daycare 4 days a wk for almost 3 yrs now. When he first started, he wouldn't even say bye, just run off and play. The last year or so has been not like that. He clings to me and doesn't want to let go. I have to get one of the carers to take him. He doesn't cry. He LOVES daycare and has a great day. 9/10 he doesn't want to leave at home time. So it has nothing to do with not liking daycare. I feel like it's a habit that he continues. I need to break it before Prep.
Help- my almost three year old has starting hitting. I've noticed he does it to get a reaction, either from us or his bigger brother. Sometimes it's in response to something he doesn't like i.e something taken away from him, sometimes it's purely just to niggle his brother (4.5yrs) to get a reaction. He also does it to random kids if they get too much in his space - for example if a child comes and sits and tries to enter the play he tells them to go away and will push/hit them. What do I do?
Any ideas how to get a toddler to stay in bed? We transferred her from cot to bed about 3 months ago and have gone from a 7.30 bed time to now 10pm bedtime. She just keeps getting up. It sometimes takes hours to get her down.
Asking about a 2yo girl who is very active and never listens as many times as we say no she keeps repeating the same things also she will not go to bed without a fight it’s been going on since like 18 months.
What’s wrong with time outs? I’ve read in one of the answers that they don’t work and make things worse? How so? I have 3 kids, just turned four male, almost 2 male and 4 month old girl. The middle child is my most demanding and is always starting something. I know it’s a cry for attention but he doesn’t stop nor give in. Putting him on the stairs/cot for time out is only just starting to make a difference. Before that I found I was giving him small smacks which made us both feel terrible.