The idea of rough and tumble is to let the child win, but with effort. How high to set the bar, how hard to make it before they win is up to you. Push too hard and the wrestling match will be frustrating instead of fun. Give in too easily and you take away the thrill of beating mum or dad.

Dr Lesley Jones shares some insights on what is driving children's behaviour and gives parents some simple and actionable strategies to take away and implement. Working with children's behaviour can be challenging and there are simple things we can all do as adults in relationships with children that can make a real difference.

Dr Justin Coulson is a three-time bestselling author, a TEDx speaker, and one of Australia's most popular relationships and parenting experts. In this video he looks at five reasons why we yell and five ways to stop yelling at your children.